One of the most fascinating and ultimately frustrating endeavours is the study of human behavior. What is it that makes one person take action while another is almost paralysed by inaction? Why do two people in the same situation with the same materials produce two entirely different outcomes?
Carl Jung, the father of modern psychiatry and psychotherapy, spent a lifetime studying human behavior, and even he didn’t get to the bottom of it. But one thing we can do is study our own and others behaviors to look at what needs to be dropped, improved, or emulated. So I present to you the three types of IT student.
1. The Blamer
This person never takes responsibility for their life situation or results. If somebody gets ahead they attribute it to luck (whatever that is) or say “It’s alright for them.” They blame others for their lack of progress or results and can often be heard to cry “I’ve got a wife and kids and bills to pay,” completely ignoring the fact that almost everyone else has as well.
The Blamer resents other people’s success and can often be found trolling or leaving negative comments on sites, such as Amazon, where they can vent their anger at the world. In the unlikely event they hire a coach for help, they won’t take their coach’s advice and will eventually fire them, saying that they were of no use.
When single, the Blamer will say they are too busy to study, when they get married, they will blame their job, wife, and kids for the fact they don’t study, and when they are getting on in life they will say that it’s just too late to start now and nobody will give them a break because they are too old.
When you find the Blamer lying on the couch watching TV, they will exclaim “I work hard. I deserve a break.”
2. The Struggler
This person is motivated enough to get the books out and study but often buys more and more study guides and video courses. They then become overwhelmed with information (some of which contradicts other books). They get lost in the details and rarely progress past a difficult subject.
They are often self-proclaimed subject matter experts and can be found handing out their worldly advice to others on forums. Even though they haven’t passed the exam themselves.
The Struggler will find life in general a bit of a drag. Although they try to get out of debt, get fit, and get a good career going, they will find it never seems to work out for them and they can’t understand why.
They will often be found to say that exams are a waste of time and knowing your stuff should be enough. They will rarely change jobs and instead will stick to what they know, even though they secretly hate their job and resent others getting ahead.
The motto of the Struggler is “Well, at least I tried.”
The Struggler isn’t lazy. They usually work hard, in fact, but it’s just that they don’t prioritize and are more efficient when they should focus on becoming more effective. They often find it difficult to say “no” and find themselves doing things for others and working long hours at work for no reward. They are usually very angry inside but don’t do anything to address the issue.
3. The Achiever
This person just gets on with the job no matter what their circumstances. They use a couple of study resources and regularly ask questions on forums requesting clarification. They study a subject until it’s mastered through a combination of reading, videos, and hands on labs.
They actually have things harder than the Blamer and the Struggler and often are single parents, have learning difficulties, long commutes to work, and busy lives, but they get their priorities right and take action. You won’t find them watching TV every evening because they know that doing that won’t get them to where they need to be.
The Achiever may not find things easy to learn, but they know it will sink in eventually so they do what needs to be done. They don’t make excuses, and they never blame. They will often become mentors to others and find themselves head hunted by companies because word of their work ethic gets around.
We all have areas we need to improve, so have a think about anything you want to change and make a plan.